What Society Needs: Learn To Lose Like Sports Fans

The Damar Hamlin emergency scrambled the final week of the NFL regular season. As a result of the collapse of the Buffalo Bills DB during the uncompleted Bengals/ Bills game, the league was forced to adapt its rules for the postseason. Sadly for fans of the Cincinnati Bengals, their team came out on the short end of the equation with no chance at the No. 1 seed in the AFC. 

Even the NFL had to acknowledge that the arbitrary nature of the compromise hurt the Bengals. There was, predictably, moaning and groaning from bitter Bengals fans about how their team got the short stick. The griping will persist for a while. But the team and its fans will learn to compartmentalize it.

They always do. Which is in the nature of sports. As we wrote in April of 2019, “Sport is not solely about winning. Winning is a bird that occasionally perches on your fence only to fly off to other fields. The essence of sport is learning to lose. Losing is a constant companion if you’re to be a sports fan. Coping with the mind-bending losses of your favourite team is the price you pay to exult in those fleeting moments of bliss.

It’s also the nature of fairness. Fairness is the standard we apply to winning and losing in all things. Without an even-handed process winning makes no sense, has no glory. The non-acceptance of defeat is all the more remarkable in today’s culture where losing is now an invitation to simply re-work the outcome of the game. 

In the years since Barack Obama became U.S. president and Justin Trudeau Canadian PM, results are now fungible, and outcomes can be manipulated afterward to those who whine the loudest or know the score keeper. Complain enough to the right people 2+2 can equal 5. 

A classic denial of outcome was the 2019 Jussie Smollett incident for faking a racist attack in Chicago. Smollett appeared to have dodged legal trouble thanks to a compliant Chicago district attorney moving the goal posts for him. When Smollett was later sentenced to 150 days in jail in March 2022 he was later released after an appellate court ordered he could go free during the appeal process, which wouldn't be completed before Smollett had served his full sentence. 

Ask Smollett’s supporters in the #BLM movement and they’ll tell you her never lost. In the words of Smollett, “If I did this then it means I stuck my fist in the fears of Black Americans in this country for over 400 years and the fears of the LGBTQ community.” 

In Trudeaupia there was, among many, the 2019 SNC Lavalin scandal. The governing Liberals wanted to create a pathway whereby the giant Quebec-based contractor—and Liberal benefactor— be spared the criminal process for its alleged bribing of Libyans officials. In their zeal to get the results they wanted— not the results SNC deserved— the Trudeau government went so far as to fire attorney general Jodie Wilson Raybould who stubbornly supported the rule of law in the case. 

When asked later about this, Trudeau shrugged and changed the topic. Canadians saw a blatant disregard for fairness in the case; yet for Trudeau’s Liberals, the lack of outcome for political interference was rewarded with another term in office.

As we noted in 2019: “Consider the infamous Mueller Investigation into Russian interference in the 2016 election— and specifically Donald Trump’s possible role in that interference. Having staged, promoted and populated the probe, liberals now wish to disqualify its findings because they failed to receive the outcome— the guilt of Trump— they wanted. Democrats in Congress are hellbent on re-trying the results using a different standard (ed: two impeachment trials] . In essence, playing the game over by new rules that will allow them to win. 

There are infinite examples where people outside sports cannot handle losing anymore. The Dems couldn’t take 2016, The GOP deny the 2020 results. They don’t want the bitter lessons of a narrow loss. They don’t want to wait for the cycle to come back their way. They want it now. Which is a pity.  Today’s culture cannot accept losing, cannot countenance not getting its way. It must debase the concept of fairness to achieve its results. 

“The nature of winning and losing will be on display  the next months as the NHL and NBA playoffs unfold across the continent. There will be bad beats and cruel turns of fate for the teams eliminated along the way. There will be a howl of injustice raised a number of times about referees missing calls and video reviews gone awry.

It’s the nature of fairness that it sometimes take a winding road. But in the end all the participants will accept the winners, however grudgingly”. 

If only the rest of the culture could do the same. But that horse has left the barn.

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Bruce Dowbiggin @dowbboy is the editor of Not The Public Broadcaster  A two-time winner of the Gemini Award as Canada's top television sports broadcaster, he’s a regular contributor to Sirius XM Canada Talks Ch. 167. Inexact Science: The Six Most Compelling Draft Years In NHL History, his new book with his son Evan, was voted the seventh-best professional hockey book of all time by bookauthority.org . His 2004 book Money Players was voted sixth best on the same list, and is available via http://brucedowbigginbooks.ca/book-personalaccount.aspx